Hypothetically speaking...

Original post: December 31, 2006

Time for some reader feedback. I'm going to pose to you a totally hypothetical situation, and I'd like to hear how you would handle it.

Let's say that you met this girl a while back. A friend of a friend. She seemed really great, and you were sure that she felt the same about you. But, after several unsuccessful attempts at asking her out (she didn't respond to any emails or instant messages, even though you indicated that it was in fact you, and you tried not to sound like a stalker of some type, but it may have come across that way anyway) she started dating someone else. After said incident, you figured she really wasn't interested in you after all, and you kind of stopped talking to her. A few months later, your mutual friend informs you that she did like you, and nobody really knows why she ended up dating that other guy. It just sort of happened.

Anyway, you recently found out that the two of them have broken up, after about a year and a half. You'd like to talk to her, but you feel it would be kind of awkward and obvious what your intentions were, after a year and a half of silence. Would you try to get ahold of her, or would you leave it alone, as if it were not meant to be, which is the impression that you got in the first place?

Random thought: I hope she's not reading this right now.... Hypothetically speaking, of course...